Ending a romantic relationship is never easy, especially when you’re still deep in love. It can be difficult to deal with the paperwork of ending a marriage while trying to regulate your emotions. So how can you mend your heartache?
Healing takes time
The truth is, there is no shortcut to mending. Healing is not linear. Allow yourself to acknowledge the pain and confusion. Suppressing your emotions may only keep you from mending completely. Lean into your support system for tenderness, love and care as you navigate this time.
Seek an empathetic divorce lawyer
Being with an empathetic lawyer who understands what you are going through can help you deal with the nitty-gritty stages of divorce. They may not offer emotional advice, but they can provide proper legal support, especially if you and your spouse have decided on a collaborative divorce. This kind of divorce might entail regular meetings with your spouse. Proper legal assistance will help ground you as you must converse with your spouse frequently as the divorce is ongoing.
Release with love
Grieving an ending marriage may stir up feelings of anger, confusion, sadness and many other negative emotions. It can help to remember that your soon-to-be ex-spouse has been a vital part of your life no matter how long the marriage was. Releasing with love means letting them go their way in peace while freeing yourself from what no longer serves you.
Divorce may be the best decision when couples have exhausted all interventions and still have irreconcilable matters. However, though it might offer some relief, it will still stir up some difficult emotions.